Collarspace
Collarspace Registration
Collarspace Messaging
Collarspace Profile

Our Review

Collarspace is primarily an online network for individuals who practice the BDSM lifestyle. The foundation of the site is SSC: safe, sane, and consensual. It advertises itself as a safe space where discrimination is not tolerated and boundaries are respected. With about 500,000 unique visitors per month, most of which come from the United States, Collarspace is a large community of like-minded people.

New members at Collarspace in March 2024 in comparison

Here you can see how membership figures at Collarspace are developing compared to others

Collarspace Members

Members
100,000 from Hong Kong
Members activity
15,000 daily logins
Gender Proportion
30 %
70 %
  • 1,600,000 worldwide members
  • Members are from different age groups

Even though you'll find that some of the profiles have been inactive for years, there's always that helpful list of currently online members on the homepage. There are indeed real people looking for genuine relationships, but it seems like you'd have to weed through the thousands of "findommes" (dominatrixes who practice financial domination) and dormant profiles.

How to Sign Up for Collarspace

Collarspace Registration
  • After signing up you are redirected to another BDSM page
  • You can have an account without a public profile
  • Your account has to be reviewed in 1-2 days

After you input the necessary details, once you click "Join Collarspace", you're immediately redirected to alt.com, Collarspace's affiliate. Not only is this step irritating, it could also be confusing to the not-so-tech-savvy person. Before you can add users to your favourites and send messages, your account has to be approved first. This reviewing typically takes 24 to 48 hours. 

Making Contact on Collarspace

Collarspace Messaging
  • Free for all users
  • Your profile has to be approved before you can send messages
  • All members can send messages for free
  • There is a chatroom

Since your profile needs to be approved before you can send a message, it may take 1 - 3 days before you can start chatting with other members. Additionally, Java runtime has to be installed in your browser before you can use the private chat feature or even the public messaging board.

Collarspace Profile Quality

Collarspace Profile
  • Profile photos are as graphic as they come
  • You can write personal notes about a user
  • Profiles can have journals
  • The profiles are not very detailed
  • The profile information can be changed later
  • Profile pictures are visible to everyone for free

Besides your basic information, your profile has details from 12 categories of interests and one category of skills. These 12 interests are adventure, athletics, BDSM (1, 2, and 3), diversions, hobbies, intellect, lifestyle, music, spiritual, and sports. There's a public journal option where you can post updates about virtually anything in your life, which anyone can view. You can write personal notes on the profiles you come across for referencing later. These notes are only visible to you.

Collarspace Real Life Review

"I was an avid user of CollarMe up until all that drama went down. When I heard the news that it was now rebranded to Collarspace, I eagerly went to the new website, expecting that everything would be the same. Boy, I was wrong. It's so hard to connect to people here now compared to the good old days in CollarMe. Back then, out of the messages I'd get, about 80% were from doms who were serious. Now almost all of them are either bots or scammers who just want money but never want to meet up. I guess this is one of the pitfalls of a website that has no price. Or something must've been lost during the transition. I don't know. I think I'm better off trying my luck at FetLife." - Male Submissive (33)

Design and Usability

The website looks like it hasn't been updated since the early 2000's. The tabs on the main menu are really small and you'd have to squint to see them. They don't look like they're arranged in a comprehensive way either. The website is not user-friendly because you can't rely on your instincts to find certain functions. On the visual front, there's nothing (and we mean nothing) to praise, but at least it serves its purpose.

Collarspace Costs and Prices

Is Collarspace expensive or cheap?

In comparison to other providers Collarspace is free of charge.

Special Features

Admirers

Simply put, admirers are users who put you in their favourites list. Since all features work both ways, this means that the profiles you favourite will know that you've favourited them. If you're shy, this can be a good way to facilitate conversation (a.k.a.: have them notice you and talk to you first). If you want to stay anonymous, you can use the "Notes" feature instead.

Resources

The Resources are a list of guides to help you navigate your way not just through the site, but through BDSM as a whole. There are links on knowing your limits, how to become a good ally for the LGBT+, honouring the transgender community, all the different sexualities, and so much more.

Events

Public events are posted here and can be attended by anyone. The events are diverse and range from balls, to flea markets, to pride parades. There are conventions for doms, parties for swingers, and support groups for women.

Our rating

Signing Up: 3.0 / 5
Making Contact: 3.5 / 5
Profile Quality: 3.5 / 5
Real Life Review: 2.0 / 5

Editor's Conclusion

DatingsScout.hk Author Chris Pleines
Chris Pleines
Founder of Datingscout and Author of the book "Online Dating for Dummies"
Although Collarspace has a promising premise, the execution is a tad disappointing. The website is outdated and quite difficult to navigate around. Many of the profiles are either fake or have been inactive for a long time. There's also the issue about security. Since a person doesn't need a profile to browse the different accounts, anyone can basically "prowl" around these public profiles and do whatever they want with the information they find. For more secure website on casual dating, check out our Casual Dating category.

Collarspace FAQ

Facts

Who owns Collarspace?

Collarspace is reportedly owned by Bayshore Software Technologies Inc. in California.

What happened to CollarMe?

CollarMe was the original domain of Collarspace. After news broke out that there was a falling out between its two creators (which you can read more about if you Google it), CollarMe was shut down and renamed to Collarspace. All data remains intact.

Is Collarspace safe?

Yes. Collarspace doesn't send out your information to third parties. As a general rule, don't share your private information, be careful about your photos because all of these profiles are available for public view, and don't send money to any stranger online.

Is Collarspace fake?

No. Collarspace is a legitimate website for those who practice BDSM.

What are the Collarspace terms and conditions?

You can view them in full here: collarspace.com/tos.asp.

Is there a Collarspace mobile app?

As of writing, no. There aren't Collarspace mobile apps yet.

Is Collarspace on Facebook?

Yes, but their page is either private or has been suspended.

How do I contact Collarspace for help?

There is a support tab on the main menu. You can contact their team there, but they've also linked a FAQ page in case your question was already answered.

Usability

What is the Collarspace photo grid?

It was a search feature that showed your daily matches arranged in a photo grid. It has been reportedly disabled for technical reasons.

How can I read my mail on Collarspace?

On the main menu, click on "Read Mail".

Is there a spam filter for Collarspace?

Yes. you can set your filters in your inbox.

What does "Profile not found" mean?

If you can't view their profile this means that either the profile has been deactivated or the owner blocked you.

How do I unblock someone on Collarspace?

It seems like you can't, so really think about it before you block someone on Collarspace.

How do I delete my Collarspace account?

On the main menu on the left, you will find a button labeled "My Account". On that page, click on "Close Account" on the upper right corner.

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Contact details

Company:Bayshore Software Technologies Inc.
Address:548 Market Street San Francisco, California 94104 United States